Dr. Karl Wendt: How not to date a jerk Local News Today by: Felicia Foster Posted: Feb 6, 2018 / 04:05 PM CST / Updated: Feb 6, 2018 / 04:05 PM CST Life lesson: How not to date a jerk. 1. Most people act better than they are at first. 2. American dating is not designed to get to know someone – it is designed to impress someone. 3. Most jerks are either charming or cute – or both.